It’s real easy to become one of those people who love to
complain (the woe is me people). They tend to complain all the time about
everything under the sun. As a youth and young adult, I was innocent enough to
believe what people were saying. I really thought there were plenty of valid
reasons to complain: about the weather (most often), lack of money (runner-up),
“white” folk, “black” folk, neighbors, friends, coworkers,
the heavy set person taking up two seats on the subway, bad health, etc. I
assumed the world just turned out to be like this and there was nothing much I
could do about it. Being in that environment it’s really easy to get infected
by that way of being.
Fortunately for me something clicked though, especially as I
started traveling outside of the U.S., and reflecting on the culture and
society I was born into. One of the great benefits of being born and spending
time outside of the United States is having a different view of the world. Even
though I was born and raised in the central city of Georgetown, Guyana, and we
had indoor plumbing; I knew of and were friends with other kids who weren’t as
fortunate. I saw poverty of a kind not comparable to that in the U.S. Yet these
folks often had nothing but big smiles on their faces, while we had everything
and were still complaining! How could this be?
It became crystal clear to me that the complaints had
nothing to do with the outer circumstances. It was an attitude, a habit formed
As I matured, and through countless interactions in the
world, I learned that inner loneliness, clinging to expectations of how “we”
think things should be, instead of appreciating what is, was among the reasons
why we complain so much.
I realized further that the people, who seemed to complain
very little, were those who connected to something “greater” than themselves.
Here’s what shifted for me. I began to express sincere
gratitude for all the love and “hate” I had received and will keep receiving
throughout your life. I became grateful for the clean water coming out of the
tap, with just a simple gesture of my hand. Take into consideration that there
are many people in other parts of the world spending upwards of six hours every
day to get a little bit of water, and an unfortunate number die of thirst.
I became grateful for the lights that came on when I would
flip the switch in my apartment. Large parts of the world have to do without
electrical power! Say “thank you” for the variety of food that is available to
you every day, around the globe there are countless numbers who get by on one
scarce meal a day, or are simply starving.
The first thing everyone wants to know after watching the movie the Secret is, “How do I use what i just learned?” That’s understandable because although the movie is good and introduces the concepts to the law of attraction, it doesn’t really tell you how to properly apply it to your life.
One of the first things you can do is, educate yourself as much as possible on the subject of the law of attraction. Learn the very nature of the law of attraction and how it influences your life.
The core of the secret, are your thoughts which goes a lot deeper than negative verses positive thought. If you understood the true nature of thought, you would be a huge step above those who think they understand the law of attraction. The biggest secret, you have to do your part! see step three…
The second step to mastering the secret law of attraction is to get a journal. Yep, he went there. Get a journal, and begin to writing. Do you know most people have no clue what their predominant thought patterns are, nor do they even know what it is that they want. It doesn’t really matter where you begin, just start. Write what ever comes up, doesn’t even have to make sense in the beginning. The point is you’ve started…
When you get a journal you can begin to explore your feelings on a much deeper level. Seeing your feelings on paper clears it up from being cluttered in your mind. Your thoughts are a gift, and a curse, putting them to paper can be liberating. Give it a shot!
The third step to using the law of attraction is to take small inspired action towards your goals. With your new law of attraction journal you can begin to track daily, every action you take that is in alignment with your goals. Its very hard for most people to be aware of the way they spend their time. When you set a specific plan and track it in your journal you have a better chance of seeing how your week has gone, your month and then your year.
How many times must we do the same crazy things that get us the same crazy results over and over again. Know doubt you know this quote “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” Then many people say that the law of attraction did not work in their lives, actually the law of attraction did work. It gave you more of the same conditions you were creating again and again. How does that not make sense!
Would you agree that everything in the universe is vibrating on any given frequency? If you agree, then can you identify with the understanding that our vibration will attract the circumstances and events that compose our lives?
The signals you emit are made up of your thoughts, beliefs, and the emotions that these create within you. You’re experiences tend to match what you’ve got your focus on.
You do have the power to affect your experiences by paying attention to what you focus on. This is where your power is. If you are focused on the negative aspects of your experience, you will create more of the same, which you then focus on and create more of, and so on in a vicious cycle. Fortunately, this works the other way too! If you choose to focus on the positive aspects of any experience, you will create more positive aspects you can then focus on, and continue bringing more positive experiences into your life. Even if you can only find one positive aspect to focus on in a situation that has many more negative aspects, and you keep choosing to keep your focus on the one positive part, you will soon see improvement in that situation that will give you more, that’s positive to focus on. It’s a gradual, continual process. And it works!
Just because something is how it is, does not mean it has to stay that way! Just because you’ve had a lot of it in the past, does not mean you’re doomed to have more of it in the future! If you don’t like it, know that you do have the power to change it. And if you do like it, know that you can create more of it, if you wish to.
Gradually shifting your perception to include more of what you do like, opens the flow so more like it can come to you.
Over the last few years we’ve found many incredibly helpful resources that have helped us along this journey. We’ve set up this site to share these resources with others along the path to living their greater life.
Check out this snippet from Gary V, it’s all mindset people.
Nature is one of the greatest sources of happiness. Humans have lived in the lap of nature since our early beginnings, and when compared to the time spent living in modern cities it is comparably very short. The human race is dependent upon nature for its very survival (plants recycle carbon dioxide into oxygen; our food is a product of nature; and we can survive under a very limited range of variables of nature like temperature, etc.)
Nature is all free! It is there for everyone to stand, stare and derive happiness and solace from. It doesn’t differentiate between rich or poor, strong or weak, man or woman. The warmth of the sun’s rays on your skin is free. To sit under the stars at night and stare at the moon, you guessed it, free. A walk on the beach, feeling the sand between your toes and water soothing your feet, all free.
How much would it cost to make an artificial island with rivers, forests, mountains, and surrounding ocean?
Billions just ask the folks of the Arab Emirates.
When we see the moon, we see it in its entirety, no matter how many millions of people are seeing it at the same time. Similarly, the sky, forests, oceans, rain fall, mountains all are there for us to fully enjoy.
If you are sad, feeling anxious, struggling with a problem, spending some time in nature will do you good. Nature has an uncanny ability to sit beside you like your mom, spouse, brother or sister, or good friend and embrace you. Slowly it lifts your spirits, makes you see your worries, and problems in the right perspective of infinite time and space. You smile; you laugh; and you are happy again!
More and more in today’s society, we are conditioned to medicate or find solace in buying things to cope. We get a temporary fix from our medications and purchases. However, it doesn’t end our suffering.
Yet how many of us realize that infinite beauty and happiness is lying around us in the form of nature?
Do you appreciate this fact and draw happiness out of it?
The next time you’re feeling like crap, go walk among the trees in a local park, or if you’re lucky enough the woods or country side. Peace!
Do you ever find yourself or feel the need blame others? How about constantly blaming and judging yourself? There was a time when I would verbally beat myself up for mistakes, saying things like, “I’m such a f-up,” and would often say very negative things, such as, “Things will never get any better,” or “I’m a loser,” or “I’m never going to amount to much” I would begin to feel angry and agitated as a result of this self-inflicted abuse, but I never connected the anger with my self-judgment.
It began to make sense that I would not be able to stop blaming others until i stopped blaming and judging self.
I began to realize that I was letting my thoughts run rampant, never stopping to discern whether or not what I was saying to myself was the truth or a lie. As a result, i was constantly allowing the wounded part of me, my ego self, to be in charge. And this part of me was filled with all the lies i had learned in the 30 years of life.
I wanted to stop doing this, but I’ve been doing it for a large part of my life. How do I stop?”
Stopping any negative behavior is always a challenge. Changing our thought process is especially challenging. However, there is a process available, but it will only work when you’ve decided that you really want to change. Changing from being self-abusive to self-loving has to become more important to you than continuing to try to control yourself through your self-judgments.
Here are a couple steps that may help if you’re in this space:
- Pay attention to your feelings. Learn to be aware of when you are feeling angry, anxious, hurt, scared, guilty, shamed, depressed, and so on.
- Make a conscious decision to learn about what you are telling yourself that is causing your pain, rather than ignoring it, turning to substances, or continuing to abuse yourself.
- Ask yourself, “What am I telling myself that is causing me to feel badly?” Once you are aware of what you are telling yourself, ask yourself, “Am I certain that what I’m telling myself is the truth, or is it just something I’ve made up?” Then ask yourself, “What am I trying to control by telling myself this?”
- Once you are aware that you are telling yourself a lie that is causing you to feel badly, and why you are telling it to yourself, ask the highest, wisest part of yourself, or ask an inner teacher or a spiritual source of guidance, “What is the truth?” When you sincerely want to know the truth, it will easily come to you.
- Change your thinking, by telling yourself the truth.
- Notice how you feel. Lies will always make you feel badly, while the truth brings inner peace.
Any time you are not in peace, go through this process to discover what lie you are telling yourself. Eventually, with enough practice, you will be in truth and peace more and more of the time.