Dealing With Emotional Baggage

We’re all guilty of it. It appears in numerous forms. We carry them about with us, store them in the darkest recesses of our minds and souls. We have a large collection of recollections of them. It’s not uncommon for people to shed tears at the least provocation when they think about their loved ones. Others may be enraged, harbor profound animosity, and engage in anti-social or confrontational behavior as a result of this.

Many people are haunted by shadows, whether in their dreams or in the midst of the day. Anger out of control, which has the potential to escalate into violence, can strike at any time.

Others will remain in a state of denial, completely cut off from the rest of the world. It’s always someone else’s fault if something goes wrong for certain people; they blame everyone but themselves. What about the victims and the perpetrators of abuse?

Many people get disoriented while trying to locate something they cannot place. There’s something wrong. In schools, workplaces, and churches, a horde of lonesome faces line the streets, sit in public areas, and agonize throughout the day. It’s a constant reminder that we’re all in this together. Road rage is uncontrollable because our roadways are open channels for people to vent their grievances. Scary shit!

Excessive emotional baggage may be costly. When the weight of this responsibility becomes too heavy to carry, some people succumb to it. They see no need to continue the war. They find the world harsh and pointless, and life loses its luster. If there was ever a fight, it’s over for them.

There are many people who live their lives like a piece of driftwood, allowing the river to carry them wherever it will. Is it possible that our reality is so cruel?

What is the source of this emotional pain?

Broken dreams, failed relationships, lost hopes, betrayals, violations, childhood trauma or other types of trauma, contribute to the health concerns. Many of society and the family’s most vulnerable individuals are scarred emotionally by social humiliation and financial calamities, as well as poverty and addiction.

Is our fast-paced society to blame for this? To all of this, we may now add the quest for monetary gain, an unending supply of trinkets and devices, and the rapid advancement of technology. Emotional baggage from broken relationships, diminishing familial ties, and unrealistic expectations of oneself and others is piled on. Some people bear them for a long period.

Even if our bodily requirements are met, we may still find happiness if we take time to listen to our innermost desires. In most areas, there’s an overwhelming amount of resources available, including information, organizations, specialists, and more. Society and people who suffer from deep emotional pain can no longer overlook this crucial issue. 

There has been a revival or revision of wisdom from many civilizations and beliefs in order to fit in with today’s society. If you’re looking for a comprehensive approach, you’ll find it here.

Medical and technological advances are astounding, but just swallowing a pill isn’t always the best course of action.

Determine how much emotional baggage you carry around with you.

The Simple Things Add Up… There Is So Much To Be Grateful For!

It’s real easy to become one of those people who love to complain (the woe is me people). They tend to complain all the time about everything under the sun. As a youth and young adult, I was innocent enough to believe what people were saying. I really thought there were plenty of valid reasons to complain: about the weather (most often), lack of money (runner-up), “white” folk, “black” folk, neighbors, friends, coworkers, the heavy set person taking up two seats on the subway, bad health, etc. I assumed the world just turned out to be like this and there was nothing much I could do about it. Being in that environment it’s really easy to get infected by that way of being.

Fortunately for me something clicked though, especially as I started traveling outside of the U.S., and reflecting on the culture and society I was born into. One of the great benefits of being born and spending time outside of the United States is having a different view of the world. Even though I was born and raised in the central city of Georgetown, Guyana, and we had indoor plumbing; I knew of and were friends with other kids who weren’t as fortunate. I saw poverty of a kind not comparable to that in the U.S. Yet these folks often had nothing but big smiles on their faces, while we had everything and were still complaining! How could this be?

It became crystal clear to me that the complaints had nothing to do with the outer circumstances. It was an attitude, a habit formed over time.

As I matured, and through countless interactions in the world, I learned that inner loneliness, clinging to expectations of how “we” think things should be, instead of appreciating what is, was among the reasons why we complain so much.

I realized further that the people, who seemed to complain very little, were those who connected to something “greater” than themselves.

Here’s what shifted for me. I began to express sincere gratitude for all the love and “hate” I had received and will keep receiving throughout your life. I became grateful for the clean water coming out of the tap, with just a simple gesture of my hand. Take into consideration that there are many people in other parts of the world spending upwards of six hours every day to get a little bit of water, and an unfortunate number die of thirst.

I became grateful for the lights that came on when I would flip the switch in my apartment. Large parts of the world have to do without electrical power! Say “thank you” for the variety of food that is available to you every day, around the globe there are countless numbers who get by on one scarce meal a day, or are simply starving.